Nui nā wāhine e hoʻolimalima i ka manawa e noʻonoʻo ana i nā mākaʻi o ka wahine ikaika, no laila,ʻaʻole ia he mea e kahaha ai keʻike nei lākou ma ka moeʻuhane. Ma muli o nā mea'ē aʻe o ka moeʻuhane, eʻikeʻia ana he mauʻokoʻa a me nā unuhi. Ponoʻia e kahakiʻi i kahi pilina ma waena o nā hanana o ke ola maoli a me kaʻike i loaʻa.
He aha ka mea eʻike ai kekahi kanakaʻikeʻole?
ʻO ka moeuhane i kēlā manawa i kēia manawa he lapaʻau no keʻano o nāʻenemi. ʻO kekahi mahele'ē aʻe paha, he mea hoʻokaumahaʻoleʻo ia i nā hemahema a me nā'ōlelo hōʻino. I loko o kekahi mau puke moemoeke, aia kekahiʻike e like me ka mea iʻikeʻoleʻia e kahi kanakaʻikeʻole i loko o ka moeʻuhane he hōʻailona maikaʻi e kū ana i nā loli maikaʻi i kona ola pono'ī. No nā kaikamāhine i ka moeʻuhane e hoʻohiki i kahi hālāwai maikaʻi i manaʻoʻoleʻia. ʻO kahi kanaka malihini maikaʻi e pili ana i ka hoʻonuiʻana o kaʻike kālā. Ināʻaeʻole ke kanaka, pono e kali i nā pilikia a me nā pilikia. No kekahi kaikamahine'ōlohelohe, he kanakaʻikeʻole i ka moeʻuhane keʻano o kekahiʻano palekana mai kahi ola kolohe a me ka hōʻinoʻole.
ʻO ka hoʻokūʻana i ka malihini i loko o ka moeʻuhane a me ka huhū no nā kaikamāhine i loko o ka pilina, he hōʻailona maikaʻiʻole ia, e hōʻike ana i ka nalowale o kaʻike me kā lākou mea aloha. Ināʻaʻohe mea i hanaʻia, e hele wale ka pili i "no." Ke hauʻoli ka honi -ʻo ia ka'ōlelo aʻo e pili ana i ka pukaʻana o kahi hoa hakakā, a hiki iā ia ke hoʻonui a me ka lukuʻana i ka pili pili . Inā i loko o ka moeʻuhane he kanaka eʻikeʻole nei e hīmeni ana -ʻo ia ka luʻuluʻu o ka pōmaikaʻi a me ke aloha. ʻO kaʻike pō, kahi i launa maikaʻiʻia ai ka malihini,ʻo ia hoʻi ka hōʻeaʻana mai o nā malihini i ka hikiʻole. Inā
ʻO kaʻikeʻana i ka malihini maʻi aʻoleʻole e pili ana i ka moeʻuhane he hōʻailona hōʻino ia, e hōʻike ana i ka hopena o nā pilikia a me nā pilikia. Inā hoʻonāukiuki ke kanaka malihini i nā manaʻo wela, aia hoʻi, i ka manawa koke, e hanaʻia kekahi mea aloha, aʻo ia ka mea e ulu ai i ka pilina pili pono a me ka hopenaʻana i kaʻainaʻana . Ua pono iaʻu e hakakā me kekahi kanakaʻikeʻole i kuʻu moeʻuhane - eia ka'ōlelo aʻo e hiki i ka hoʻokomoʻana i kahiʻoihana pilikia hiki ke lawe mai i nā pilikia he nui a me ka luku nui i ka inoa. Inā makemake ka malihini eʻike,ʻo ia hoʻi, ma ke ola maoli, i ka manawa koke a ma hope paha, e loheʻia nā hoʻopiʻi kūlanaʻole.