ʻO ka paio o ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahine e nānā a me ke aloha i kāna kāne a me kāna keikikāne i loko o hoʻokahi kanaka, he mau makahikiʻelemakule ia o nā moʻo'ōlelo, nā'ōlelo hōʻemi a me ka pōʻino. ʻO ka pinepine o ka makuahōnōwai wahine e hoʻopilikia i ke ola o kāna hūnōna kāne a me kāna hūnōna wahine, inā noho kaʻohana a pau i ka hale a me ka hale likeʻole. E like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei,ʻo ka makuahine makuahine maikaʻi a me ka makuahōnōwai wahine ka poʻe e noho mamao ana, a he mea paʻakikīʻole e hui pū me lākou. I loko o kēia he meaʻoiaʻiʻo.
ʻO nā mea a pau e like me ka makuahōnōwai maikaʻi, ka mea aloha i kāna keikikāne a me kāna hūnōna wahine, like nō ia, ināʻoe e hoʻoili i kekahi'āina me ia,ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke kōkua i ka pale. I ka hapanui o nā hihia, piʻi ka makuahonowai wahine i ka hānaiʻana o ke keiki, no ka mea, ma kona manaʻo he mea nui loa konaʻike ma ka hānaiʻana i nā keiki ma mua oʻoe a me kāna kāne. ʻO kekahi makuahōnōwai e hana no nā kumu kūpono wale nō, a hiki iāʻoe ke helu i kā lākou kōkua a kākoʻo. Akā, pehea lā inā e loaʻa i koʻu makuahōnōwai wahine?
Mālama ka makuahōnōwai wahine i ko mākou ola
He aha ka hakakā a me ka hakakāʻana ma waena o ka hūnōna wahine a me ka makuahine o ka wahine? ʻO ka pololei, ma mua, ma ka lili. He mea maʻalahi ka liliʻana o ka makua i kāna keiki,ʻoiaiʻo ia wale nō ke keiki i loko o kaʻohana. A he mea lili -ʻo ke kumu e hele ai ka makuahonowai wahine me nā mea a pau e hiki ai, hāʻawi i nā'ōlelo aʻo maikaʻi he nui, aʻo ka hūnōna wahine ke lili a ho'āʻo hoʻi e hana i nā mea a pau ma konaʻano pono'ī.
I kekahi manawa uaʻikeʻia kona makuahōnōwai wahine i ka nohoʻana o ka wahine'ōpio. Ma kēiaʻano,ʻo kona mau kuhihewa wale nō keʻikeʻia e ka hūnōna wahine, akāʻo kāna keiki -ʻaʻole loa. Ua hoʻohanaʻiaʻo ia i kona makuahine aʻaʻoleʻikeʻo ia e hoʻopuniʻo ia me kāna hoaaloha aloha. Eia kekahi, ua maʻa mauʻo ia i ka noho mau o kona makuahine,ʻoiai ma mua o ka maleʻanaʻo ia me kona mau mākua,ʻaʻoleʻo ia ke ola kūʻokoʻa. ʻAʻole hiki i nā mākua ke kū'ē iā ia a he mea paʻakikī iā ia ke hoʻomaopopo i ka'ōlelo a kona makuahōnōwai wahine e hoʻopilikia i ka ola a me ka olaʻole no kāna wahine a me kāna wahine paha.
Pehea e pāpā ai i koʻu makuahōnōwai wahine?
E noʻonoʻoʻoe he kaikamahine'onahuneʻoe, akā, ua kāohi kou makuahōnōwai iāʻoe e noho. Ma keʻano maoli, makemakeʻoe eʻike i ka hoʻoponopono houʻana i ka makuahōnōwai wahine, e hoʻopau i kāna hoʻoikaika i kāu keiki pono'ī a hoʻopilikia i kou pilina. Mai kēia hopena, aia kahi ala maʻalahi. E hoʻokaʻawale i kou makuahōnōwai wahine! ʻOiaʻiʻo,ʻaʻole i ka'ōlelo maoli. E hoʻoholo i ka hakakāʻana. E hoʻoholo i ke kumu no kāna hana, maiʻae i kāna e haʻi iāʻoe i ke aha a pehea e hana ai. Eʻae likeʻoe me kou makuahine i nā mea a pau. Hōʻikeʻaʻoleʻoe e pale i kāna mau ho'āʻo e hoʻonui i kou ola a me ke ola o kāna keiki, e hōʻike anaʻaʻoleʻoe e hakakā a hōʻoia i kou pono.
ʻO keʻano maʻamau,ʻo ka koho maikaʻi loa ke nohoʻana i nā hale a me nā hale kūikawā, akā ināʻaʻole hiki iāʻoe ke uku, eia kekahi mau'ōlelo kūpono.
- E hāʻawi aku i kahi makuahōnōwai wahine e hoʻomaopopo ihoʻaʻoleʻoe heʻenemi, akā,ʻo kona kōkua a kōkua.
- Mai kūkā a kamaʻilio paha i kou makuahōnōwai me kāu kāne, mai'ōleloʻoe e hele anaʻo ia i loko o ko kākou ola, akā, ināʻaʻoleʻo ia e pololei, a uaʻike pono kāna kāne iā ia, e ho'āʻo e pale a hōʻoiaʻiʻo iā ia.
- E aʻo i nā mākuahine a ho'āʻo,
inā hiki, e hahai iā lākou, no ka mea, hāʻawi iāʻoe i ka waiwai kūpono i kaʻelemakule. - E ho'āʻo e heleʻole i ka lumi kuke, hoʻomaʻemaʻe, holoi a hao i kāu mau mea. Inā makemake kou makuahōnōwai e kōkua - mai hōʻole, eʻae wale i kāna mau'ōlelo a me kāna mau'ōlelo.
- Inā he hakakā a he paio paha, e ho'āʻo i ke noi aku i ke aloha,ʻoiai inā he pololeiʻoe, no ka mea he'ōpiopioʻoe, a uaʻoi paha ke akamai.
Ma ka hahaiʻana i kēia mau rula, a me kaʻikeʻana he makuahine ka makuahōnōwai wahine, me kona mau ikaika a me kona mau nāwaliwali, nā pōmaikaʻi a me nā pōʻinoʻole, eʻike kokeʻoe e hoʻomaopopo a mahalo iā ia. Aʻo ka pili o kāu ola me kāna kāneʻaʻole ia e hoʻopiʻiʻia e kona makuahōnōwai wahine, i loko o kona kino e loaʻa ai iāʻoe he hoaaloha pono a kākā'ōlelo.