ʻAʻohe mea kānalua i nā keiki likeʻole i nā keiki 20 ā 50 mau makahiki aku nei. ʻO ke kumu nui o kēia, heʻoiaʻiʻo, ke ulu nei nā keiki o kēia mau lā i kahi māheleʻikepili kūikawā loa, ma kaʻumi a me nā manawa haneli. ʻO lākou, e like me ka huahua, e hoʻomoʻili i kaʻike e hoʻolakoʻia e ka honua hou. ʻAʻole ia he mea kānalua loa i ka likeʻole o kā mākou mau keiki iā mākou.
Nā keiki hou - he aha lākou?
- Pono e mālama mauʻia a hoʻomau mau . ʻOiaʻiʻo ua'ōlelo aku kou makuahine iāʻoe i kekahi mea e like me: "I ka pihaʻana iāʻoe i 2 makahiki, hiki iaʻu ke iho mālie mai lalo mai o ka papa 5 e hoʻolei aku i ka lepo, a haʻalele iāʻoe i ka home. Me kāu keikikāne,ʻaʻole e hoʻohana kēia helu - hiki iāʻoe ke noho no nā minuke 2 me kahi lumiʻole. " 'Oiā,ʻo nā keiki i kēia manawa,ʻoiai i ka wā'ōpiopio, heʻano kūlohelohe loa lākou, e hana koke a hoʻololi i ka nānā. ʻO kēia mau mea e hiki ai iā lākou ke amo i ka haunaele a me ka luku ma kahi wikiwiki. A inā mākou e noho meʻoe, i nā wā o mākou i ke kula haʻahaʻa, hiki i ko mākou mau mākua keʻimi i ka hapalua o nā mea pāʻani no ka hapalua hola a no ka mea heʻahaʻaina awakea, a laila, lilo mākou i mau mākua, pono e kūkoko pololei me ke keiki. Ināʻole, hikiʻole ke hikiʻole i ka maikaʻi - ka hakiʻana o ka waiwai o ka home, a me nā pōʻino loa a me nā hopena maikaʻiʻole. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, e nānā i nā mea i hanaʻia e nā keiki hou,ʻo nā mea liʻiliʻi hoʻi:ʻaʻole i loko o nā pahu a me nā pyramids, akā, i nā leo'elepona a me nā meaʻeleʻele - makemake lākou i kekahi mea eʻoi aku ma mua o ka nui o nā mea hana. A i ka holomua o kaʻoihana i kēlā me kēia makahiki e hāʻawi iā lākou i nā "mea hana" hou a hou.
- Pono lākou e noʻonoʻo iā lākou iho , i ko lākou mau manaʻo, a me kā lākou mau manaʻo. ʻO kā mākou mau makuahine, ma keʻano heleʻana, he manawa maʻamau mākou e hānai iā mākou, nā kamaliʻi, a hiki iā lākou ke heluhelu i kahi nūpepa a kamaʻilio paha i loko o lākou. I kēia manawa, he mea paʻakikī ke nānā i ke kiʻi. Hiki ke huki hou ke keiki i kēia manawa i ka lima o kona makuahine, e hoʻomaha e kamaʻilio me ke hoaaloha, e kamaʻilio i ke kamaʻilioʻana a hana i nā mea a pau e hiki ai ke nānā aku a hiki i ka loaʻaʻana. A ināʻaʻoleʻoe e pane aku i kēia "concert", e lilo ana ia i mea hōʻino nui, a hiki paha, he trauma i ka pēpē.
- ʻO-ʻike . Pono nā keiki i kēia manawa i ka makemake nui no kaʻike, akā, ua hiki keʻike a hoʻomaʻamaʻaʻia i kaʻike. Akā, koho lākou e aʻo,ʻo ka mea e pili ana iā lākou,ʻo ia ka mea e nui loa i ka pili. Aʻo ka pākeke a me ka Internet, e like me kā mākou i'ōlelo mua nei, e hāʻawi i kekahiʻike ma nā palena palenaʻole. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hōʻemi i kaʻoiaʻiʻo o kahi mea nui o ka Pūnaewele i ka hānaiʻana i kahi keiki hou. Akā i ka loaʻaʻana o nā keiki i ka pūnaewele o ka honua nei, aia kekahi mau pilikia: ka loaʻa o kaʻike e hōʻeha ai i ka uluʻana o ka naʻau-kūlohelohe (hanaʻino, ponoʻole, a me nā mea'ē aʻe); ke kūkuluʻana i ka mea'ānoninua Internet; ka manaʻo haʻaheo i ka aʻoʻana (no ka hikiʻana ke kiʻi i nā moʻolelo kākau hope, a me nā mea'ē aʻe).
Nā pilikia o nā keiki i kēia au hou
- Ka hoʻonuiʻana i ka pilinaʻana mai nā mākua mai, kaʻole o ka nānā, a ma keʻano likeʻole, he hyperope. Loaʻa nā mākua a pau i nā ala e hoʻoponopono ai i nā pilikia o ka loli hou:ʻo kekahi mau mākua e loaʻa koke ka haʻaleleʻana i ka lā hānau makuahine a hāʻawi i nā keiki liʻiliʻi i ka hale hānai; ʻo kekahi poʻe, e ho'āʻo nei me ka palekana e hiki ai ke pale aku i ke keiki mai nāʻaoʻao weliweli o ke ola,ʻoiai, e like me kā lākou e'ōlelo nei, "eʻai" i kā lākou keiki. Hōʻike lākou i ka hōʻailonaʻole i ka pilina o nā mākua a me nā keiki.
- ʻO ka pilikia o ka socialization. I kahi makahiki e kamaʻilio ai nā kānaka me kekahi i kekahi no ka hapa nui ma luna o ke kelepona a ma ka pūnaewele, eʻoi aʻe ka paʻakikī o nā keiki e hoʻololi ai i ka pilina kūkā me nā hoa. Eia kekahi,ʻo ka pilikia o kaʻike o nā keiki me nā mea e pili ana (me ka hōʻailona hōʻailona a me ka hōʻailona keu) uaʻoi aku kaʻoi aku:ʻoihana, nā kīnā, a pēlā aku.
- ʻO ka loaʻaʻole o kaʻike i kaʻike, i'ōleloʻia ma luna,ʻaʻole i loaʻa ka hopena maikaʻi loa i ka uluʻana o ke keiki maʻi o kahi keiki maʻi.
- ʻO ka nānāʻana i nā kuleana o ke keiki ma kēia ao ka lilo i mea pilikia iʻikeʻia e nā keiki pono'ī: ke hakakā nei no ko lākou mau kuleana, nā kikowaena no ka kōkuaʻana i ke kānāwai i nā keiki, a pēlā aku.
Ua inoa mākou i kahi mau hiʻohiʻona a me nā pilikia o nā keiki hou. Akā, ua lawa kēia e maopopo ai: hikiʻole ke hoʻokomo i nā ala a me nāʻano i 20, 30, 40, a me 50 mau makahiki aku nei i ka hānaiʻana o ke keiki hou. He kūʻokoʻa kēlā me kēia hanauna hou, a he kū hoʻokahi nā keiki a pau. No laila ke kī i ka holomua o nā mākua he ala alakaʻi hoʻokahi, hoʻolohe i ka'ōpiopio a me ka manaʻo maikaʻi.