ʻO ka nīnau o ka pilina ma waena o nā meaʻelua o ka wahine'ē aʻe, he mea maʻalahi. ʻO nā mea a pau e pili ana i nā kānaka a me ko lākou manaʻo i kekahi i kekahi. Ma keʻano laulā, maikaʻi loa ka pilina o nā keiki ma waena o ke keikikāne a me ke kaikamahine. Ma hope o nā mea a pau,ʻaʻole mālama nā keiki i kaʻokoʻa o ka makahiki, ke kāne, a me ka lāhui. Akā, i ka liloʻana o nā keiki makua,ʻoi aku ka loli o ko lākou mau manaʻo . Pēlā ka pilina ma waena o ke kanaka a me ke kaikamahine paha a iʻole i ke kukoʻana i kekahi me ka hopena i nā mea a pau loa, e hōʻike ana kēiaʻatikala.
Hiki paha ke pilina ma waena o ke kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine?
- ʻO nā manaʻo kuhiʻole . Mahalo paha, pinepine ke keiki a iʻole ka pilina o ka pilina ma waena o ke keikikāne a me ke kaikamahine i kahi aloha hoʻokahi iʻole ka pānaʻi. ʻO ka mea maʻamau kekahi mea aloha, aʻaʻole iʻike kekahi i nā loli o ka pilina, e hoʻomau i ka noʻonoʻoʻana i ka pili pili loa. ʻO ka pilina,ʻoiaʻiʻo, e lilo i meaʻole. I ka wā e hiki mai ana, hiki i ka pilina e neʻe i kahi kūlana hou a lilo i mea pili loa, aiʻole, e iho i lalo i kaʻole.
- ʻO ka hoihoiʻana o ka Mutual . Ke hanaʻia nei ma ka lōʻihi o ka poʻe e pili ana me ka pilina, hoʻomaka eʻikeʻaʻole lākou i aloha wale i kekahi i kekahi, akā makemake lākou i kekahi mea. ʻO kaʻono o ka wahine'ē kekahi i kekahi aʻo ia ke kumu nui i hikiʻole ai ka launa ma waena o ke kāne a me kahi kaikamahine. I kēia wā, pili ka pilina i nā pilina piha. A no ka mea,ʻo ka pilina o iaʻano e pili ana i ka ikaika a me kaʻoiaʻiʻo, no ka mea,ʻo ka poʻe iʻike mua i kēlā me kēiaʻaoʻao ma mua o ka hiki muaʻana iā lākou,
- He aloha maoli . Akā,ʻo ka pilina ma waena o ke kanaka a me kahi kaikamahine ke hana, inā paha heʻano koʻikoʻi kēlāʻano holoholona. ʻO ka pilina ka pilina pili loa, akā,ʻaʻohe wahi no ka pili piliʻana a me ka hopuʻana. Ma muli o ka lōʻihi o ka kūkākūkāʻana me kahiʻelele o ka wahine'ē aʻe, āu e makemake nei, he mea hikiʻole ia, akā,ʻaʻohe mea iki. Akā hoʻi, hiki i nā kāne a me nā kaikamāhine ke hoaaloha a aloha i kekahi i kekahi me kekahiʻohana, ke aloha hanauna. Aʻo ke aloha,ʻoi aku ka ikaika ma mua o ka ikaika.