He aha keʻano o ke ola kanaka? Loaʻa paha i ka huliʻana i ke aloha? ʻO kahi wale nō ka mea e nānā ai,ʻo keʻano o ke aloha, e like me keʻano,ʻaʻole iʻuʻuku.
He aha ke aloha?
Make mākou i ka hua'ōlelo "aloha" i loko o ka leoʻeleʻele, e uhi ana i ko mākou mau maka. Akā, no ka mea, heʻokoʻa ke aloha, hoʻokahi loina,ʻaʻole i kaupalenaʻia kēia manaʻo. No laila, he aha ke aloha i laila?
ʻO keʻano hoʻohālikelike hoʻohanohano e hāʻawiʻia ana e ka meaʻikeʻo Erich Fromm ma kānaʻoihana The Art of Love. ʻO nāʻano aloha i loko o kēia puke ua kapaʻia he mau mea, aʻo ka manaʻo iʻikeʻia heʻano eʻike ai i ka mea pohihihi o ke kanaka. No laila, he aha keʻano o ke aloha mai Fromm?
- ʻO ke aloha aloha kahi manaʻo e pili ana i keʻano o ka lōkahi me nā kānaka'ē aʻe. ʻO kēia ke aloha ma waena o ka like.
- ʻO ke aloha makuahine -ʻaʻole i hōʻike i ka makuahine (makua wale nō) i ke keiki, ke manaʻo nei kēia manaʻo e kōkua i ka mea palupalu a keuʻole.
- Alohaʻoe. Mai koʻu manaʻo he pono e hōʻike i ke aloha i kekahi kanaka. Ke manaʻo nei ka mea kilokilo,ʻo ke kanaka i alohaʻole iā ia iho,ʻaʻole hiki ke aloha i nā mea a pau.
- Ke haʻiʻia nei ke aloha i ke akua i ka pae hoʻohui o kaʻuhane kanaka. Mai ka manaʻo mai ia ia ke kumu o nāʻano aloha a pau.
- ʻO ke alohaʻo'Erotic - nā manaʻo o nā mākuaʻelua i kekahi i kekahi. ʻO ke aloha e like me kahi hui piha,'okahi me kāu koho. ʻO keʻano o kēia aloha he mea kupanaha loa ia, no laila, hiki keʻike like kēia manaʻo me nāʻanoʻano o ke aloha, a he hilinaʻi kūʻokoʻa.
Akā,ʻaʻoleʻo Sirm i hoʻopaʻa i kona noʻonoʻoʻana i kēia mauʻano aloha e like me ia, akā, uaʻikeʻo ia iʻelua mau mea likeʻole o ke aloha - me ka hana a me ka make. ʻO ka mea mua e hoʻoikaika i ka manaʻo o ka piha o ke ola, e manaʻo i ka hōʻike o ka mālama, kuleana, pane pololei a hiki i ke kanaka a me ke kumuhana a manaʻo paha. ʻO ka meaʻelua, eʻimi ana i ka mea i alohaʻole i ke kuokoa,ʻoiai, he mea luku ia. Akā,ʻaʻole kēia wale nō, Maiʻikeʻoe i nāʻano likeʻole o ka hōʻailona o ke aloha, hoʻokaʻawale i waena o nā kūlana'ōpiopio a me nā kinoʻole.
Akā, no ka nui o nāʻano o ke aloha e noho nei,ʻike ka meaʻike i ka mea i kauohaʻoleʻia i hoʻokahi kanaka eʻoiaʻiʻo. Inā aloha waleʻoe i kahi mea hoʻokahi a piliʻole i nā mea a pau, a laila hiki ke kapaʻia kēia he hōʻailona, akā,ʻaʻole aloha.
ʻO ka manaʻo o ke aloha i waena o nā Helene kahiko
ʻO ka nīnau no keʻano o ke aloha, he mea makemake i ka pilina kanaka mai nā wā kahiko, ma ka'ōlelo Helene kahiko, aia kekahi mahele o nāʻano aloha 5 a pau.
- Agape. ʻO kēiaʻano aloha he mōhai. ʻO kēia ke aloha, mākaukau no ka hāʻawi aku iā ia iho. I loko o ke ao Karistiano, ua manaʻoʻia kēlā mau manaʻo e hōʻike i ke aloha i kona hoa noho. ʻAʻohe wahi e hopu ai i ka mea i alohaʻia, ma muli o kona mauʻano i waho.
- Eros. Ua kapa aku nā Helene i kēia'ōlelo me ke alohaʻole, a me ke aloha nui. ʻO kēia manaʻo e hana pinepine i keʻano o ka hoʻomana, no ka mea, ua hilinaʻiʻia ma keʻano o ke kūpaʻa, a ma ka manawa wale nō ma ka moe kolohe.
- ʻO Storge. ʻO ka manawa ma hope o ka hanaʻana i keʻano o mua. A laila hoʻonuiʻia ka pilina i ke aloha. ʻOiai paha heʻano'ē aʻe - ke aloha a me ka mahalo i nā makahiki he nui o ka pilina.
- Filio. ʻO kēia aloha i kapaʻia he platonic, no nāʻano aloha a pau,ʻo iaʻo Filia i hānaiʻia e Plato ma kahi paepae. Ke manaʻo nei kēia manaʻo e pili ana i ka hoʻouluʻana i kaʻuhane, hiki iā mākou ke'ōlelo he aloha i konaʻano maʻemaʻe. Ke manaʻo nei mākou no kā mākou mau hoaaloha, nā mākua a me nā keiki.
- Mania. Ua kapaʻia kēia aloha i ka "hehena mai nā akua" mai nā Helene a ua manaʻoʻia he hoʻopaʻi kūpono. Ma muli o iaʻano aloha he mea maʻalahiʻole ia,ʻo ia ka mea e hoʻomāʻehaʻeha ai i ke kanakaʻeha, pinepine i ka manaʻo o ke aloha. He mea luku kēia manaʻo, ua kauohaʻo ia e pili mau i ka mea e hoʻomana ai, eʻike aiʻoe i ka huhū huhū a me ka lili.
ʻO keʻano o ke aloha iʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ke'ōlelo, he mea paʻakikī ia, he mea nui ia i ka mea i manaʻoʻia he ikaika. Inā mākou e hoʻomanaʻo i ka nui o nā manaʻo, hikiʻole ke hoʻohālikelike me Mania a me'Eros, akā, ua pōkole kēlā mau manaʻo. ʻO nāʻano'ē aʻeʻaʻole e hoʻonā i nā manaʻo o ko mākouʻuhane, akā hiki iā lākou ke noho me mākou no ka manawa lōʻihi, i kekahi manawa i ko lākou ola a pau.