No nā mākua, e noho mau ka poʻe keiki i kaʻikeʻole, e noi ana i ka'ōlelo aʻo a me ke kākoʻo. Ma ka manawa lōʻihi, hiki i kēlā me kēia o kākou ke hele mai i kēia me ka laweʻana iā ia no ka ponoʻole,ʻoiai ma hope iho o ka hānauʻana o kā mākou mau keiki pono'ī. Akā, aia i loko o ke ola a me kahi manawa e makemake nuiʻoe e hoʻopau i nā mea a pau, e hauʻoli nei i kou wā makua a me ke kūʻokoʻa. ʻAe,ʻo ia, ke kamaʻilio nei mākou no ka mea paʻakikī a palupalu - he'ōpio.
I ka wā e ulu ana nā keiki, loaʻa i nā mākua nā kumu he nui a me nā kumu no kaʻikeʻana,ʻo ka hopena o ke ola pilikino i loko o kā lākou mau keiki: hele ka nalu ma lalo o ka mahina a hiki i ke ahiahi, hele lōʻihi a honi i ka puka a pēlā aku. Ke hopohopo nui nei nā mākua o nā kaikamāhine,ʻaʻohe, no ka mea,ʻaʻole kumuʻole nā mākua o nā kaikamāhine.
ʻOi, inā he hoaaloha kāu kaikamahine me kēia mau hoa - kēia kiʻi aʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka maka, aʻo keʻano nuiʻoe e hoʻomaha. Aka, inā he okoa nā mea a ua hui kāu kaikamahine i ke kanaka makua a me ke kāne paha? ʻO ka hopena mua o ka hapanui o nā mākua i kēia lono,ʻo ia ka mea makaʻu. ʻO kahi'eleʻaleʻa "kōkua" e huki i nā kiʻi, kahi i ho'āʻoʻia ai kahi malihini ma nā mea a pau o ka nohoʻana o ka makua e hōʻino ai i ke koko. Akā,ʻaʻoleʻoe e lele i ka hopena aʻaeʻole e hana i nā "neʻe o nā manawa". ʻO nā hana hoʻopilikia a Hastyʻaʻole wale ia e kōkua i ka hoʻoponoponoʻana i ka pilikia, akā e pili nui hoʻi i kou pilina me kāu kaikamahine.
Nā mea kōkua no nā mākua o nā kaikamāhine
Kūleʻa mākou i mau mau manaʻo kōkua e kōkua iāʻoe e hoʻoholo i kēia kūlana:
- ʻaʻoleʻo ia e pāpā iā ia e hālāwai me kāna wahine i waeʻia ma keʻanoʻano -ʻo kahi wale nō āu e loaʻa ai ma kēiaʻano hana,ʻo ia ke hoʻolohe i ke keiki e kū'ē iā ia iho;
- e kamaʻilio pono i kāu kaikamahine, me kouʻano,ʻano ahonui, kani, e hōʻike iāʻoe he hoaalohaʻoe. Ma keʻano maʻalahi, e ho'āʻo i kaʻikeʻana i nā nīnau e pili ana iāʻoe, e like me keʻano o ka lōʻihi o ka pilina i "hele";
- e ho'āʻo e lilo i hoaaloha o kāu hoaaloha, a laila no ka'ōlelo aʻo e hele maiʻo ia iāʻoe,ʻaʻole i nā kaikamāhine huluhulu wale nō. E kākoʻo iā ia aʻaʻole loaʻoe e hōʻino a hōʻeha paha i nā'ōlelo hōʻino i kaʻuhane: "Ua haʻi wau iāʻoe";
- e kamaʻilio aku iā ia e pili ana i ka pili wahine, ināʻaʻoleʻoe i hana i kēia ma mua. Akā, i ko mākou mau makahiki o ka pūnaewele a me ka loaʻaʻole o kaʻike i nāʻike, he nui nā kaikamāhine i manaʻo i nā moʻolelo kuhihewa e pili ana i ka moekolohe a me ka hanaʻoleʻana , e like me "mai ka manawa mua mai kahi mea" a pēlā aku. Inā uaʻike muaʻia ka moekoloheʻana, mai hanaʻoe i kahi pōʻino, maikaʻi ke laweʻana i ke kaikamahine i ke kaukahonua no ka nānā muaʻana i kaʻaʻa ;
- e ho'āʻo i kaʻimi i ke kumu o kāna kaikamahine - pinepine ma lalo o ka manaʻo mua, i laweʻia e nā keiki kiʻekiʻe no ke aloha, manaʻo wahaheʻe naʻaupō, e like me ka "hoʻopaʻiʻana" i ka mua, e hōʻike ai i nā hoaaloha. Inā i ulu kahi kaikamahine i kahiʻohana i hikiʻole ke hoʻopau, aia paha ma ke kāne makua kāne eʻimi ponoʻoleʻo ia i ka makuakāne, no ka loaʻaʻana mai o kēia mau pilina aloha a me ke aloha i kona wā'ōpiopio;
- E ho'āʻo eʻike i ka pilina o kāu kaikamahine - ma kahiʻano maʻalahi, e ho'āʻo eʻike i kona mau manaʻo. Mai hōʻike pono i ka huhū aʻaʻoleʻoe e noi e haʻalele i kāu kaikamahine wale nō.
E hoʻomanaʻo i kēia manawa no ka meaʻaʻole i emi kēia kanaka, a ma kahi pahaʻoi aku ka lōʻihi aku ma mua o kou, no laila,ʻaʻoleʻoe e hoʻokomo i nā paio me ia; - inā hele kekahi kanaka i kahi hulina - he hōʻailona maikaʻi kēia. ʻAʻole pahaʻoe i kahi nui o ka makahiki, hiki i kēiaʻike ke hoʻololi nui i ka hoʻokumuʻana i ka pilina a me nā pilina pilina me ia;
- 'ōlelo i ka hiki i nā hālāwai ma kou home, inā paha he lumi kahi o kāu kaikamahine - e hoʻokuʻeneʻe aku iā lākou a kokoke i "ka nānāʻana";
- aʻo ka mea nui - mai hopohopo! ʻO ka pilina me ka wahine'ē aʻe, he mea nui ia i ka uluʻana.